Chapter 102 102, Women’s Advantages
Qin Huairu's world was really opened up this time.
She knew she was beautiful since she was a girl, so she pursued a better life and found the right opportunity to marry into Sijiu City.
But Qin Huairu never thought that women could be labeled with other labels besides their faces.
Violent, kind, or as messy as her mother-in-law, but she still felt vague about the so-called pretending to be pitiful.
Raising her pretty face, Qin Huairu looked at Jia Zhang with questioning eyes.
Qin Huairu understood what Jia Zhang meant. Naturally, the so-called better life was not brought by hands, but by others taking the initiative.
But this matter has an impact on her status as a widow. If she doesn't do it well, others will say that she is not a woman and so on. If she gets that reputation, it will be a disaster for Qin Huairu and her future life.
Jia Zhang was also a little undecided, smacking her lips and said: "When you are a widow, your reputation is the most important thing, just like you and Silly Zhu. Mom knows that you are thanking him for bringing you a few lunch boxes, so she treats him After getting a little closer, rumors were started by those in the courtyard, and finally he was scolded by the Silly Zhu family.
Do you feel wronged?
But any daughter-in-law will be on guard against this. "
Seeing that Qin Huairu listened carefully, Jia Zhang also spoke clearly.
Jia Zhang continued: "But what if you were originally an enthusiastic person? You have a good relationship with everyone in the yard and are close to everyone. Why would others doubt you and Silly Zhu? You, you will suffer the consequences. Up here.”
Qin Huairu now really understood that what Jia Zhang wanted was for her to show her enthusiasm for everyone, so that others would think she was a warm-hearted person.
Then hide the person you want to get close to in your ordinary enthusiasm, and finally achieve your goal.
Qin Huairu smiled and said that it was indeed the case with Sha Zhu in the past few days, and she took the lunch box from Sha Zhu's hand. But he completely ignored the opinions of others. Those people must have opinions about themselves and Silly Zhu.
"When you are a widow, you have to keep a good distance when you are in contact with people. You can be closer in words, but in fact you have to keep a distance. The more measured you are, the more others will trust you and the more they will value you.
Only then, once you get to know each other, and if you show mercy, those people who are loose will take the initiative to help you.
You have to pay back things you borrow, but you don't have to pay back things that are given to you on your own initiative.
Mom doesn’t know about other things either. I can only say that my mother has never been sorry to Dongxu’s father in her life, nor has she ever suffered a loss. "Jia Zhang concluded today's conversation.
Seeing Qin Huairu's expression of success, Jia Zhang patted Qin Huairu's arm and sighed: "Huairu, for Dongxu and your children, I will wrong you in the future."
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Qin Huairu was lying on the bed, with a big belly pressing on her, making her breathless. She thought about everything Jia Zhang said, but found that everything Jia Zhang said was the most suitable method for her.
Of course, what Qin Huairu didn't realize was that while accepting Jia Zhang's guidance, she also set a circle for herself.
This circle completely restricted her to the Jia family, the courtyard house, and the steel rolling mill. It was such a narrow life circle. If she wanted to behave according to Jia Zhang's way, she would never be able to escape from her current life.
This cannot be blamed on Qin Huairu's lack of knowledge. These days, whether young widows or old widows, there are very few choices. Except for those who can't survive, they basically won't consider remarrying.
In the education they received since childhood, that kind of person is immoral.
Qin Huairu reached out and touched her coat pocket again. Inside was a handful of change given to her by Sha Zhu. She counted it when she was outside and found that the total was only more than three yuan.
These three dollars are the only property Qin Huairu has owned since childhood. This money belongs completely to her and has nothing to do with the Jia family or the Jia Zhang family.
And the reason for all this is that she is special to Silly Zhu. This was unlike Yi Zhonghai's pity for her. No matter how much Yi Zhonghai gave her, it was only for the Jia family.
Everyone has selfish motives in life, and Qin Huairu also has it. She knew that Bangge Xiaodang and the thing in her belly were her future debts or her future hopes.
She had to find a way to feed them and give the children a life of food and clothing. Then the children will reward her with a happy old age in the future.
This has been the case for generations, and Qin Huairu is not exempt from it.
The next day, Qin Huairu gave the neighbors in the courtyard a different feeling.
It was as if I suddenly figured it out. I no longer felt the sadness of the previous period and became more enthusiastic about life.
She laughs heartily, treats others with enthusiasm, and helps others when she sees their difficulties...~
Even Wang Fang, who had targeted her a few days ago, she treated warmly. Asked Wang Fang to stand in front of her and wait for water, Wang Fang waved her hand and refused.
Qin Huairu pulled her enthusiastically and said, "Come on, come on, you are not like me. I only have this little work in hand, and you have to go out to do errands after washing the clothes."
Although Wang Fang didn't know what she was going to do, she couldn't refuse Qin Huairu's kindness.
His face turned red, and he sheepishly thanked Qin Huairu.
Wang Fang thought Qin Huairu would explain what happened a few days ago, but unexpectedly, Qin Huairu didn't say anything. Instead, she enthusiastically started talking with others.
This created an illusion for Wang Fang, who had just married into the yard, and imagined that Qin Huairu was such a passionate person. Although Wang Fang did not relax her vigilance towards Qin Huairu, she could not help but feel a little less resentful towards Qin Huairu for what happened some time ago.
These days, the neighbors in the compound get along well with each other and are closer than any other relatives. After all, if relatives are far away, they will rarely meet them all year round. But we see our neighbors every day, and if there is any small matter, our neighbors will help us the most.
The saying that distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors refers to this mutual help lifestyle.
In daily life, there must be friction or something. If the owner's house is missing a green onion and the west house is missing a piece of ginger, there must be some criticism of the mulberry trees and the locust trees. But it is not the mainstream of life in the hospital.
Most families live their own lives, and then lend a helping hand when others are in trouble.
What Qin Huairu wants to do now is such a person.
If a child's pigtails are not tied properly, Qin Huairu will stop what she is doing and help the child tie them.
Whoever's daughter-in-law washes the quilt, Qin Huairu will also help wring it out.
Qin Huairu saw what she could do and helped.
At first, the neighbors in the courtyard were a little wary of Qin Huairu's courtesy.
But despite this, Qin Huairu never mentioned anything about borrowing money or food from her family. Everyone let down their guard and accepted Qin Huairu's enthusiastic persona.